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The Vice of Advice

We all need good advice every now and then.

Sometimes when the weight of the world is just getting a little too much, a dose of no nonsense advice, alongside a cup of tea, can be just what it takes to get you back on your feet.

But recently I’ve felt slightly overwhelmed by the sheer amount of advice that I am bombarded with each day.

Do you feel the same?

Every time, I turn my computer on, or mention to someone that I run a business, I get inundated with an opinion or a suggestion. And sometimes I feel like I could do with everyone just backing off!

Now, I’m not being a grumpy old so-and-so, these days I’m fine with it, I can see it for what it is.

It’s advice. You can either take it or leave it. {Tweet this!}

But I remember when I first went into business, I was fearful and cautious. I SO wanted it to work, and I’d listen to anybody with half a business credential. And there were plenty of people to listen to!

And the more I listened, the more confused I got. Advice sent me whirling into a panic over practically any business decision I had to make. Level-headed-lady-boss: I was not!

It was actually a pretty hard time, I was either really down about my lack of knowledge or highly strung over things that in hindsight really weren’t that big of a deal.

Now some people are naturally very good at cutting through all the crap and getting to the source of the issue, they just go ahead and do it. They don’t give a fig about blue prints, business plans or doing the correct things in the correct order. Hell no! They set up a Facebook page and start offering their service or product without worrying that they don’t have a website or a business email.

But for the rest of us, that FREAKS us out!

Some might like structure, a step by step plan to doing it the ‘right’ way. And others might lack the confidence to go ahead and do the actually ‘business’ bit (getting clients and customers) without having a professional looking web presence.

I was certainly a mixture of both of the above.

But the people who forged ahead, avoided perfectionism and worried about tidying up afterwards are the ones that fast tracked to success.

The rest of us are going to get there too but it’ll take far longer.

And their secret… They don’t take advice!

If they took advice then they would know that a Facebook fan page is no substitute for a website. They’d know that clients won’t buy from you unless they have read at least X amount of blog posts from you. They’d know that engaging in a service without a contract is sure to have them ending up in a terrible legal battle….

I’m gonna call it: Bullshit!

All of the above is a steaming pile of crap.

Just because someone else has done it that way and it’s worked doesn’t necessarily mean it will work for you, and vice versa with ploughing ahead and just getting on with it.

The point I’m making is that any advice could be the wrong advice, and it could also be the right advice. It’s up to you to decide. But we cannot read every single pamphlet, bog post and book and believe that you must follow it in order to do well.

If you did that you’d be in utter business chaos, with contradictions every which way.

So let’s have a look at how to distinguish between advice that you (personally) should follow and advice that you should avoid.

It’s really important to remember that everyone in this world is looking in from their very own unique perspective. And the topic of advice really highlights this. You’re experiencing this world in your body, with your mind and in your own way. So you are in the drivers seat.

1) Your initial reaction should count for something.

When you come across advice you may feel a pull that says: ‘Yeah! That totally makes sense!’

Or you could feel: ‘Hmmm, well if you say so…’

You can now decide based on your initial reaction which advice is right for you.

Once you start to follow your gut, you’ll learn to trust it more and more.

2) FOMO

But you say: ‘What if it’s only out there for a limited time only? I can’t miss out on this!’

Back it up lady!

If this thought ever crosses your mind when deciding whether to PAY for or take advice then you need to let it go. You are coming from a place of fear in the decision, which will only make it harder to decide. Step away from the Fear Of Missing Out.

I’ve done this, I paid a few hundred pounds for a business course because of the fear that if I didn’t do it, I’d be stuck forever! And guess what, it did nothing for me or my business, nada!

3) Good vibrations?

Another huge factor is whether you ‘vibe’ with the person giving the advice. Do you find them pushy? Or relaxing? Are the ‘your sorta person’? Or do you not really get where they are coming from?

Most of my best advice comes from women, I just seem to vibe with the feminine energy. I also lean towards women who are relaxed and act as themselves, warts and all. I like the transparency. However, I don’t really enjoy taking advice from men, purely because it never feels right when I actually do. And that’s fine.

If you don’t vibe with the person giving the advice, you probably need to go elsewhere for it.

So now you know how to decided to take on some advice you’ll be made for your entire business career, yay! Or, maybe not?

What happens when the advice you are trying isn’t actually working at all, you get yourself worked up: ‘Am I doing it wrong? Why have I not seen the changes that others have? How is this not working for me?!’

Going through those negative and stressful emotions is natural, whether it be a weight loss programme, a business strategy or parenting advice, sometimes it just won’t work for you.

And as annoying as that is, it really is a great learning curve. This is the world telling you that you need to figure out another way to approach this problem. Maybe you could even turn that into your own programme one day and benefit from it?!

But the main reason for this is to show you how resourceful you are.

In my Business Intuition Training I teach you how to tap into your intuition to make big business decisions. It links back up to the above points of feeling within you whether a) your body reacted positively towards the advice, b) to understand the emotions you are feeling when you come across a decision, and c) if you truly vibrate on the same frequency as the person who is giving the advice.

These are all intuitive decisions and you can learn more about how to tap into that with the training. And once you do, you’ll start to see your true decision making power. You’ll never need to turn to anyone else for business advice, you’ll start to understand that it is all within you!

Awesomefest!

That’s not to say that you will block out all advice, but if you did ignore all advice for a week how do you think you would feel?

Free, fearful, focussed? Share in the comments below.

Much love,

Fifi

xoxo

Photo Credit || Anurag Agnihotri

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